Some women will find this distasteful to even think about, but I don’t think it’s controversial to say that men fantasize about porn stars - the whole point of porn is fantasy. Porn lets me have imaginary sex with a new woman every time, or even multiple women at a time. It lets you indulge in fetishes and sexual acts that you probably would never do in real life. And the women in porn exist only for men’s pleasure; their own pleasure is tangential at best. The women of porn allow male porn stars to use their holes as men would otherwise use their hands: purely as a device to get the guy off. Makes sense really, because that’s what guys watching it are doing - wanking themselves.
I’m in favor of porn personally. (Obviously). Many’s the time I’ve mouthed a ‘thank you’ to some porn star for letting herself be willingly violated so that I could have an easier, or more intense orgasm while making long, languid love to myself. But as important as my pleasure is to me, there’s actually also a civic argument for porn: that as access to porn increases, sexual violence to women and children decreases. It makes sense when you think about it, many are the comics who have joked about how men just need a release so we don’t murder people.
But when you develop an addiction to porn, or when you just can’t discern very well between fantasy and reality, that’s when it becomes a problem. People who are too in love with the fantasy have a real problem with real women. Real women don’t scream and shout with every plunge of your penis into their hole, (they start breathing deeper and heavier, or moan when your weight banging into them forces the air from their lungs) and they usually find cum on their face a bit icky and not generally conducive to kissing you.
Real women tend to find their own pleasure just as important to them as yours is to you. Men often yearn for their women to want sex more - but when it comes to getting down to business time, seem to think that their bitch should be grateful for the opportunity to be laid on top of and poked at a-rhythmically while your belly bounces off them for three minutes after some perfunctory fingering.
For some reason this is some kind of rocket science - and it shouldn’t be, but too many men seem not to want to realize that if you take the time to caress your woman, slowly, all over, and kiss her prolifically, and take care to start off slowly and gently, to tease a little, and generally just take your time before you build up to some jackhammer crescendo - women end up wanting sex more! Amazingly, it turns out that the more orgasms you give a woman, the more she wants to fuck you.
Funny how that works.
Women are not porn stars, and when we stop treating them as such, it works out much better for all parties concerned.
In my experience, and this is based on countless and consistent user-feedback, more than four out of every five guys really suck when it comes to fucking women. Yes, you’re that bad. Basically you just exist to make me look good.
But I’m going to help you fix that. The first thing you’re doing wrong? Masturbating. For most guys the act of self loving isn’t actually very loving. In fact, it’s more of a furtive and contemptuous act of disgust and abuse. This is partly the fault of the bronze age desert religions we’re brought up with that suck the very last ounces of goodness out of sex, and partly because by the time most guys actually get some quality alone time, you really just want to nut one out and release the buildup before you get a) busted by an errant roommate or b) get all Middle Eastern on someone’s ass and go blow some fuckers up.
This has to change. You need to learn how to make mad, passionate love to yourself - and that involves taking your time. You need to practice getting yourself right to the point of a colossal yoghurt explosion - and then pulling back from the brink, and then building yourself back up again. And again. And again. Delay that gratification! After practice (much practice), you should be able play with yourself for over an hour, to the point where you’re so aroused that you barely need to touch your heat-seeking missile in order to prompt your white hot meltdown.
Practicing taking your time masturbating does three great things for you. Firstly, it makes you much more in touch with your own body, and what it reacts to. Whether that’s sticking a finger up your ass, strangling your balls, or putting ice on your nipples, it means you now have greater empathy for how someone else is feeling, and hence, what’s turning them on (or off). Secondly, putting off your orgasm considerably intensifies your orgasm for when you do blow a load. Thirdly, it means you can last longer than five minutes when you finally do manage to dip your wick in some gloriously hot and sticky honey pot.
These are all considerable assets when it comes time to make love to an actual woman, and will immediately leapfrog you past legions of other lovers. You now have a decent chance at not only making her come - but being able to time it so that you both come together. It’s true, practice does make perfect.